What exactly is pegging?
Let's start with the definition.
Pegging is a form of anal penetration using a sex toy, usually a dildo held in front of the pelvis with a harness.
This harness goes by several names: strap-on harness, strap-on dildo, or dildo harness.
The principle remains the same: the dildo is held securely enough for the person wearing the harness to control its movements.
But not all systems work the same way.
Some harnesses hold a flat-based dildo. Others use interchangeable rings. Some are designed as genuine leather BDSM accessories. Others look more like lingerie. There are also strap-ons where part of the device is worn inside the body of the person who is penetrating.
The choice of system therefore significantly changes the experience.
Pegging is not just for heterosexual couples
Historically, the term pegging was mainly used to describe a specific configuration: a woman penetrating a man anally with a strap-on dildo.
This definition explains why pegging was long presented as a "role reversal".
But limiting the practice to this single configuration would be very reductive today.
Anal pleasure and the use of a strap-on do not depend on sexual orientation. A harness can be worn by a woman, a man, or a non-binary person. The person being penetrated can also be of any gender.
In a male same-sex couple, for example, a strap-on can allow them to explore a different kind of penetration from that achieved with a penis, choose the exact shape and dimensions of the dildo, or incorporate the harness into a BDSM scenario.
In a couple consisting of two women, the strap-on can also be part of the couple's sex life, including for anal penetration.
The equipment does not define the gender or sexual orientation of the person who uses it.
Pegging and homosexuality: let's debunk a misconception
This is probably one of the most persistent prejudices surrounding pegging.
The fact that a man enjoys anal penetration says nothing, on its own, about his sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation concerns the people towards whom you feel attraction. A sexual practice describes what you enjoy doing with your partner.
The two concepts are not interchangeable.
Part of the taboo also comes from old patterns that systematically associated penetration, dominance, and masculinity. In this view, the person who penetrates would necessarily be dominant, while the person receiving would necessarily be submissive.
The reality of sexualities is much less simplistic.
You can receive penetration without being submissive. You can wear a strap-on without seeking to dominate. And you can, of course, choose to deliberately incorporate a dynamic of dominance and submission into pegging.
These are different dimensions.
Why try pegging?
There is no single answer.
For some people, curiosity is enough.
For others, pegging allows them to discover a new form of anal or prostatic pleasure.
For others still, the appeal lies more in switching usual roles: taking control, giving it up, discovering their partner in a different position, or simply introducing a new element into the couple's sex life.
The strap-on can also become an erotic object in its own right. A black leather harness, a glossy model, or a lingerie-inspired piece will obviously create a different atmosphere even before penetration begins.
This is precisely why at BRIGADE MONDAINE we do not consider the harness to be a mere technical support designed to hold a dildo.
It is part of the experience.
Why can anal sex be pleasurable?
The anus and its surrounding area contain many nerve endings. Their stimulation can therefore be pleasurable regardless of the person's sex or gender.
In people with a prostate, pegging also allows them to indirectly explore this area through the rectal wall.
This is one of the reasons why some people look for dildos with a particular curve or shape.
But there is no universally ideal shape.
Some prefer a thin and relatively straight dildo. Others look for more volume. Others still prefer a pronounced curve or a vibrating sex toy.
The right choice depends above all on the experience of the person receiving.
Before pegging: communication is the first step
Before choosing a dildo, you first need to know if both partners genuinely want to try.
Talk about what attracts you to the practice.
Is it anal penetration? The role reversal? The aesthetics of the harness? A dominance dynamic? Prostatic stimulation? Simply curiosity?
This discussion often helps to understand that the two partners may not necessarily imagine the same thing when they hear the word "pegging".
Also define how you want to communicate during the experience.
A simple "more slowly", "stop", or "continue" may be enough. In a more BDSM context, a safeword can naturally be used.
And as with any sexual practice, consent can be withdrawn at any time.
Should you use an enema before pegging?
No, it is not mandatory.
Good external hygiene and using the bathroom are enough for many people.
Some people still prefer to use an anal enema because it makes them feel more at ease.
In this case, the goal is not to clean out the entire bowel. Excessive preparation can instead irritate the rectal mucosa.
The enema should therefore remain a personal comfort option, not a mandatory condition for anal sex.
The essential rule of pegging: lubricant
If you had to remember only one difference between vaginal penetration and anal penetration, it would be this: the anus does not naturally produce enough lubrication for penetration.
Lubricant is therefore an essential element of pegging.
It reduces friction and helps keep the particularly sensitive tissues in this area comfortable.
And do not hesitate to reapply it during sexual intercourse.
Which lubricant should you choose for pegging?
The choice depends notably on the material of the sex toy and whether a condom is being used.
A water-based lubricant is generally the most versatile option for sex toys, especially those made of silicone.
If you are using a latex condom on the dildo, avoid oil-based products and choose a lubricant that is compatible with the condom.
The most important thing is above all never to consider lubricant a minor detail in the pegging kit.
STRAP-ON-ME: when lubricant also plays a role in the fantasy
BRIGADE MONDAINE offers two particularly original references by STRAP-ON-ME: the Sperm Effect Lubricant and the Streaming Sperm Effect Lubricant.
They deliberately play with the appearance and texture of sperm.
The appeal is obviously aesthetic and narrative: when using a dildo, this type of lubricant allows you to add a visual element to the fantasy.
The streaming version enhances this texture effect even further.
It is a good example of a product that fulfills an essential practical function while also becoming an element of the game itself.
Starting pegging: why it is best to start small
For a first experience with anal sex, size is not the goal.
A thinner dildo generally allows you to discover sensations more gradually and understand how your body reacts.
The person receiving must be able to relax. Slow progression, a generous amount of lubricant, and constant communication are much more important than immediately seeking greater depth or diameter.
If penetration becomes genuinely painful, stop.
Pain is not a mandatory step that must be endured to reach pleasure.
Should you prepare with an anal plug?
It is not essential, but it can be useful.
An appropriately sized plug allows you to gradually discover the sensation of insertion before moving on to the strap-on dildo.
BRIGADE MONDAINE offers several very different approaches to the anal plug: classic models, artisanal creations, jewel plugs, vibrating models, or designer objects.
At Adèle Brydges, for example, the plug becomes a genuine artisanal object made of glazed porcelain and crafted in London.
Porcelain has a very smooth surface and also allows you to play with temperature sensations. The designer offers the Rose Plug and the Thalo, with different shapes and dimensions.
In contrast, UPKO offers a connected vibrating anal plug, for example, which allows you to incorporate vibration into anal exploration.
The goal is not to turn preparation into a mandatory journey. It is simply another way to discover what you enjoy before using a strap-on.
Pegging equipment: three elements to choose
A classic set essentially consists of three elements:
1. The harness, which holds the dildo.
2. The dildo, for which you need to choose the shape, diameter, length, and material.
3. The lubricant, essential for comfortable anal penetration.
These three elements must be chosen together.
A magnificent dildo that does not match the diameter of the harness ring will not be very useful.
How to choose your pegging harness?
The first criterion is support.
A poorly fitted harness moves with the dildo and forces the person wearing it to constantly compensate with their pelvis.
The second criterion is adjustability. The straps must allow you to precisely adapt the harness to your body shape.
The third is compatibility with dildos.
Finally, there is aesthetics.
And on this last point, the possibilities are much more interesting than the purely functional strap-on dildo we still often imagine.
STRAP-ON-ME: from technical harness to lingerie
STRAP-ON-ME is naturally one of the first brands to look at for pegging.
The French brand develops a whole ecosystem of harnesses, dildos, strap-ons, and lubricants designed to work together.
The Desirous Pegging Harness, for example, uses adjustable straps and padded support at the back. It accepts STRAP-ON-ME dildos thanks to its interchangeable ring system.
The Fabulous goes further in personalization with three ring diameters and two mounting heights that allow you to adjust the position of the dildo.
For an aesthetic closer to lingerie, the Diva, Héroïne, Unique, Sublime, Divine, or Idylle models allow you to incorporate the harness directly into your silhouette.
This is an important difference: you can choose a harness solely for its functionality or decide that it will be fully part of the seduction.
LIEBE SEELE: the strap-on meets Japanese BDSM
At LIEBE SEELE, the harness is more closely associated with the world of bondage.
The Rose Gold Strap-On Harness is adjustable and comes with two mounting rings of different diameters, allowing you to use different sizes of flat-based dildos.
The Dark Secret Strap-On, on the other hand, adopts a much darker aesthetic, in black leather with gold-colored metal elements.
And the KINBAKU Strap-On truly transforms the harness into a visual piece, with red-printed lambskin leather and a gold central ring.
These models are particularly interesting when pegging is part of a dominance scenario, bondage, or simply a more pronounced fetish aesthetic.
House of SXN: the luxury leather version of pegging
With House of SXN, we enter yet another world.
The American House makes its BDSM accessories by hand in Palm Beach, Florida.
The Domina Strap-On is made of cowhide leather with a suede interior and metal rings. Its adjustability allows it to adapt to different body shapes.
The Rubra Strap-On Harness follows the same approach: the harness becomes a genuine luxury BDSM piece rather than a simple support for a sex toy.
For those who want to incorporate pegging into a world of leather, control, and power play, this aesthetic difference matters a great deal.
Which dildo should you choose for pegging?
This is probably the question that deserves the most thought.
Look at four things: the diameter, the insertable length, the shape, and the compatibility with your harness.
To start, a relatively thin and smooth model is generally easier to get used to.
Once more experienced, you can look for more diameter, a particular curve, textures, or vibrating functions.
The total length indicated on a product sheet is not always the most useful piece of information, either. It is the actual insertable length that tells you about the use.
STRAP-ON-ME: classic dildo or Multi Orgasm technology?
STRAP-ON-ME allows you to choose between several experiences.
The Strap-On Original offers a more direct approach and comes in several variations.
The Semi-Realistic Multi Orgasm Dildo is a completely different register.
It incorporates three independent motors with several vibration and stimulation modes, as well as a remote control. Used with a compatible harness, it therefore allows you to add sensations that a passive dildo does not provide.
It is also available in several sizes.
This is therefore not necessarily the choice we would spontaneously recommend for a very first discovery of anal sex. On the other hand, for a couple already familiar with pegging who wants to evolve their equipment, the proposal becomes much more interesting.
And designer dildos?
Not everyone is necessarily looking for an anatomical reproduction.
BRIGADE MONDAINE also selects sex toys where design, material, and the object itself take up more space.
The porcelain creations of Adèle Brydges are a particularly radical example: here, the intimate object becomes a true handcrafted piece.
Other creations favor metal, silicone, or more abstract shapes.
For use with a harness, however, always check for a compatible base and the dimensions of the ring. Not all dildos are automatically usable with all harnesses.
How to practice pegging for the first time?
A successful first experience does not rely on a complicated choreography.
It mostly relies on time.
Start with the usual foreplay for couples and do not make penetration the sole goal of the sexual relationship.
The anal area can then be explored gradually, according to everyone's desires.
When you move on to the dildo, apply lubricant generously on the sex toy and around the anal opening.
The person receiving must be able to control the pace and immediately report any discomfort.
Start gradually. Once the body is used to it, the movement and pace can evolve according to the sensations.
And keep the lubricant close at hand.
What positions to start pegging?
The best position is not necessarily the most spectacular. To start, favor the one in which both partners can easily control the movements and communicate.
The spoon
The side position naturally limits the range of movements and facilitates adjustments. It also allows you to stay very close to your partner.
Face to face
The person receiving is lying on their back. This configuration facilitates eye contact and allows the person wearing the harness to easily monitor their partner's reactions.
The person receiving controls
Another possibility consists in letting the penetrated person manage the movement more themselves. For a first experience, this control can be reassuring since they directly determine what suits them.
Once the experience is acquired, the couple can obviously explore other configurations.
Pegging and BDSM: is it necessarily about talking about domination?
No.
But the two worlds meet very easily.
The simple fact of changing the usual roles can already constitute part of the fantasy. Some couples want to go further by adding handcuffs, a collar, a mask, or other restraint accessories.
This is where Maisons like LIEBE SEELE, UPKO, or House of SXN make all the sense.
A LIEBE SEELE harness can be associated with handcuffs or accessories from the same collection. House of SXN allows you to build an entirely leather world. UPKO, for its part, offers a more technical and contemporary reading of BDSM.
But nothing forces you to turn pegging into a domination session.
Pegging can be tender, playful, very sexual, very BDSM, or absolutely not BDSM.
Can you use a condom on a dildo?
Yes.
This can notably simplify cleaning and constitutes a useful barrier when the sex toy is shared.
Change condoms between partners and between different areas of the body to avoid transferring bacteria.
And if you use a latex condom, choose a compatible lubricant. Oily products can weaken the latex.
Cleaning your dildo after pegging
Cleaning depends on the material and the manufacturer's recommendations.
Silicone, metal, glass, and porcelain are not necessarily maintained exactly the same way.
So always consult the indications on the product sheet.
In general, a sex toy intended for anal penetration must be carefully cleaned after use and perfectly dried before storage.
The harness must also be maintained according to its material. A washable textile model obviously does not get maintained like a House of SXN or LIEBE SEELE leather harness.
What equipment to choose according to your profile?
I am completely discovering pegging
Favor simplicity: a comfortable and adjustable harness, a relatively thin dildo, and plenty of lubricant.
STRAP-ON-ME harnesses are particularly interesting for easily understanding the compatibilities between harnesses and dildos.
I want my harness to look like lingerie
Look at the STRAP-ON-ME Diva, Heroine, Unique, Idylle, Sublime, or Divine collections.
The harness then becomes part of the outfit rather than an accessory added at the last minute.
I want a BDSM aesthetic
The LIEBE SEELE harnesses allow you to go from Rose Gold to Dark Secret black leather or the spectacular KINBAKU.
I want real luxury leather
House of SXN is the track to favor, notably with the Domina Strap-On and the Rubra Harness handcrafted in Florida.
I want to add vibrations
Look at the STRAP-ON-ME Multi Orgasm Dildo or the vibrating anal accessories UPKO.
I want to transform the preparation into a sensory experience
The Adèle Brydges porcelain plugs and objects allow a much slower and more sensory approach, notably thanks to the thermal properties of porcelain.
I want to accentuate the visual fantasy
The two STRAP-ON-ME Sperm Effect lubricants, classic and flowing, allow you to add an additional visual dimension while ensuring the lubrication necessary for the practice.
The mistakes to avoid for a first experience
Choosing a dildo that is too imposing. Aesthetics must not come before comfort.
Underestimating the lubricant. In terms of anal sex, a few drops generally do not constitute a sufficient preparation.
Going too fast. Give the body time to adapt.
Buying the harness and dildo separately without checking their compatibility. Check the diameter of the ring and the type of base of the dildo.
Assuming that the person wearing the harness must necessarily control everything. The person receiving must be able to communicate and participate in the control of the pace.
Making enema an obligation. It is a personal choice of preparation, not a prerequisite.
Moving from one anal penetration to another area without changing the protection or cleaning the sex toy.
Pegging is ultimately just another way to explore pleasure
Once rid of the clichés, pegging becomes much less mysterious.
It is anal sex with a sex toy.
What makes it particularly interesting is everything the couple can build around it: discovery of new sensations, prostatic stimulation, change of usual roles, power play, fetish aesthetic, or simply the desire to try something different.
There is not one good way to practice pegging.
There are, however, a few simple principles: consent, communication, progression, adapted equipment, and generous lubrication.
Choose your pegging equipment at BRIGADE MONDAINE
BRIGADE MONDAINE selects strap-on harnesses , belt-cocks, dildos, plugs, anal sex toys , and lubricants from creators and Maisons specialized in high-end pleasure and BDSM.
The collections STRAP-ON-ME, LIEBE SEELE, House of SXN, UPKO, and Adèle Brydges allow above all not to reduce the choice to a question of size.
Textile or leather, lingerie or bondage, classic or vibrating dildo, silicone or porcelain: each combination produces a different experience.
And for pegging, advice can really make the difference.
The BRIGADE MONDAINE Private Boutique in Paris 5e, Left Bank allows you to see the different systems, compare the harnesses, understand their adjustment, and check the compatibility with the dildos before choosing.
The Private Boutique also has a real fitting room dedicated to erotic luxury and a Personal Shopper service to accompany you in your selection in complete confidentiality.
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FAQ: all questions about pegging
What is pegging?
Pegging is an anal sex practice in which one person penetrates their partner with a dildo generally worn thanks to a strap-on or belt-cock harness.
Is pegging only practiced in heterosexual couples?
No. Even if the term has historically been popularized to describe a woman penetrating a man anally with a belt-cock, pegging and the use of a strap-on can be practiced regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the partners.
Is a man who likes pegging homosexual?
No. A sexual practice does not define sexual orientation. Orientation depends on the attraction towards certain people, not on whether or not you enjoy anal stimulation.
Why do some men enjoy pegging?
The anal area has many nerve endings and, in people possessing a prostate, penetration can also allow an indirect prostatic stimulation.
Does pegging necessarily hurt?
No. A properly prepared anal penetration should not require enduring significant pain. Progression, relaxation, communication, and lubrication are essential. A sharp or persistent pain is a signal to stop.
Which dildo to choose for a first time?
To start, generally favor a relatively thin, smooth dildo compatible with your harness. It will always be possible to explore other diameters, lengths, and shapes afterwards.
Which harness to choose for pegging?
Choose a stable harness, adjustable to your morphology, and compatible with the desired dildo. STRAP-ON-ME notably offers several models specifically designed for pegging, while LIEBE SEELE and House of SXN offer alternatives more oriented towards leather, fetish, and BDSM.
What is the difference between a strap-on and a dildo harness?
In common usage, the terms are often mixed. The harness precisely designates the piece worn around the pelvis that holds the sex toy. "Strap-on" can designate the whole or certain sex toy systems designed to be worn.
Should lubricant be used for pegging?
Yes. The anus does not naturally lubricate itself sufficiently for penetration. A suitable lubricant helps reduce friction and significantly improves comfort.
Can you use any lubricant?
No. Check its compatibility with the material of the sex toy and, if applicable, with the condom being used. A water-based lubricant is generally a versatile option for many sex toys.
What are cum-effect lubricants used for?
They provide lubrication while visually recreating certain aspects of semen. STRAP-ON-ME is available at BRIGADE MONDAINE in a Cum Effect version as well as a Cum Effect Drip version for those who wish to incorporate this effect into their scenario.
Should you use an enema before pegging?
No. Some people prefer to use one to feel more at ease, but it is not mandatory. Excessive preparation can also irritate the area.
Is an anal plug necessary before pegging?
No, but a suitably sized plug can help you gradually discover the sensations of anal penetration before using the harness dildo.
Can you use a condom on a dildo?
Yes. This can make hygiene easier and provides a useful barrier when a sex toy is shared. Change the condom between partners and between different areas of the body.
Is pegging necessarily a BDSM practice?
No. It can perfectly well be practiced without dominance or bondage. But it can also be incorporated into a BDSM scenario with a leather harness, handcuffs, a collar, or other accessories if the partners wish.
Where can I buy a pegging harness in Paris?
The BRIGADE MONDAINE Private Boutique, located in Paris 5e Rive Gauche, features the STRAP-ON-ME, LIEBE SEELE, and House of SXN collections, as well as a selection of dildos, plugs, and lubricants. This makes it possible to compare the systems and receive advice before choosing.
BRIGADE MONDAINE ship harnesses and sex toys abroad?
Yes. The BRIGADE MONDAINE selection is available online with delivery to France, Europe, and internationally, according to the terms applicable to the destination.
